Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Our Honeymoon: Part 1: Pennsylvania: Aug. 14-19

PHOTO CAPTIONS: 1. Pittsburgh skyline, as seen from the Ducky boat, 2-5. Carnegie Mellon Museum with Ellen, John, Maya and Kai, 6-11. Allegheny River trip with Steffi and Larry, 12-14. Pittsburgh Zoo, 15. the infamous Just Ducky amphib mobile, 16. Cousins at sunset.
















My cousin Steffi picked us up at the Pittsburgh airport on Thursday evening. She took us to her favorite restaurant Ali Baba’s and suggested the lamb shank for Andre because he likes big chunks of well-done meat. I had moussaka and salad. It was all delicious.

The next day, on Friday, my former housemate Ellen Chinn and her family drove over from Indiana, PA where she and husband John teach at the university. They have a family membership to the Carnegie Museum of Natural History and their kids Maya, 10, and Kai, 8, were anxious to see the newly renovated dinosaur exhibit.


The last time I’d been to that museum was with my daughter Maya a few years ago. She loved the dinosaurs although some of them were too scary, and the Egyptian exhibit, and the Native American. I was glad that everyone wanted to see those exhibits again because they’re my favorites too. It’s really a fabulous museum. The kids even enjoyed seeing a lot of the art, which they normally skip, according to Ellen.


We met Steffi back at the house in the evening. She used to be a university professor in art & digital design for years, but recently switched back to union work. She loves her job with the United Steelworkers, riding her bike 6 miles there and back, which keeps her young and fit.


Ellen and family went out for dinner before their 1.5 hour drive back home. Meanwhile, we packed up the car for our 2-hour drive to the house on the Allegheny River. Steffi’s husband Larry beat us there, and was relaxing by a campfire. He’s going to take a 2-week vacation from his construction job, so he can work on his own house for a change. He’s painting and installing siding on the house.


The last time I was at the river with Steffi and Larry was the day they got married in 2000. They had just bought the land, so they invited 200 family and friends to celebrate. Some people camped (and fought the bugs), but Maya and I stayed with other relatives in the closest motel, 20 miles away.


Andre and I enjoyed our time at the river. The two-story house that Larry is building is spacious, with river views, and will be fabulous when it’s done. They have satellite TV, so we watched U.S. swimmer Michael Phelps win his record-breaking 8th gold medal. There’s no internet at the river (how could we survive?), but I was able to keep up with email with my iPhone. We ate delicious meals, prepared by Steffi over a campfire grill.


On Saturday, Larry dropped the three of us off 12 miles upriver, with two kayaks and a canoe. Steffi paddles often and knows the river, so she was our fearless leader. Andre, who had only paddled a kayak once in his life, on Christmas day at my cousin Zack’s in southern Chile, looked like a pro. But me, still nursing a sore thumb, lagged behind the whole way, but still enjoyed the gorgeous scenery on the Allegheny. The sandwiches Steffi packed tasted like heaven when we stopped for a break on a small island where Maya and I had camped with Steffi, Larry, daughter Alex (now off in the Middle East studying Arabic), and friends, in the summer of 1999.


Sunday morning we had a lazy day of biking and walking along the endless path along the river, which was once the train line. It’s so sad for me to see the loss of train tracks. Where is the hope for comfortable, efficient public transportation in the future? At least I read that my hometown Santa Cruz is closer to buying our scenic train route from Southern Pacific. The plan is to combine light rail with a bike/pedestrian path beside it. That will be so cool!


On Monday, our last day in Pennsylvania, Steffi entrusted me with her Prius and navigator, to go to AAA for maps, the Pittsburgh Zoo, and our silly city tour called, “Just Ducky Tours,” where they take you around in a WWII amphibious bus/boat and expect you to yell “Quack, quack, quack" at passersby. Everything went “just ducky” and our timing was perfect, until I missed one turn over a bridge, and the navigation system went berserk with all the construction in downtown Pittsburgh. It tried to direct me through roadblocks, the wrong way on 1-way streets, into detour signs. Totally frazzled, we finally arrived two minutes late to our non-refundable tour. They were loading the duck bus and would not wait for us. Our consolation was to be rescheduled for the 7 p.m. tour.


Much to my relief, Steffi volunteered to drive us back downtown when she got back from work. As it turned out, the evening was ideal, with glowing light. The tour were sold out, so Steffi read her book and waited for us to return an hour later. We bought some gyro sandwiches and ate along the river, watching the nightlights come on. I love when disasters turn out fine in the end.


Overall, we enjoyed our time in Pennsylvania very much. The weather was perfect, and we saw and did and ate a lot.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

The Wedding Album, Part 1

PHOTO CAPTIONS: 1-2. The happy couple, 3-4. Vows and rings, 5. Seal it with a kiss, 6. Bride blowing bubbles, 7. (L-R) Andre, Chelsea, Debbie, Daniel, 8. (L-R) Christine, Andre, Chelsea, Debbie, 9. Moises, Lety and their kids, 10. Our photographer Gabriel, 11. (L-R) Debbie, Daniel, Lety, Christine, Andre, Chelsea, Moises, Janette, Erik, 12. County employee Anita performed our marriage ceremony, 13-14. On the wharf.














Since it's 2:30 a.m., I'll just write a quick recap of our wedding day. Actually, it came close to being a perfect event. Everyone met on time at the county building. Our official Anita took us outside to the lawn beside the redwood trees to do the ceremony.

With Gabriel shooting lots of beautiful photographs, Andre and I exchanged vows. We mostly stuck to tradition, although I added a few lines about how Maya will always be part of our union, especially since she's the one who brought Andre and me together. I wore a medallion of her image and carried some of her ashes in my purse.

Then we all headed down to the wharf and enjoyed Mexican seafood at Las Olitas Restaurant. Debbie surprised us with a small chocolate and vanilla wedding cake, topped by a black groom and brunette bride. Moises and his family had to take off after dinner, but the rest of us hit the Boardwalk and headed straight for the Giant Dipper. Andre had never been on a roller coaster before, so that made it even more exciting. Gabriel got some great action shots!

We ended the evening with a sunset photo session down at Natural Bridges State Beach, a special place where we ride bikes to often. A perfect end to a perfect day.

The Wedding Album, Part 2

PHOTO CAPTIONS: 1. On the wharf in Santa Cruz, 2. Our wedding party (L-R): Erik, Gabriel, Christine, Andre, Chelsea, Janette, Lety, Daniel, Moises, Debbie, 3-9. Fun in the restaurant, Las Olitas, (Thanks, Debbie, for the chocolate/vanilla cake), 10-14. Andre's first ever roller coaster ride on the Giant Dipper at the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk, 15-18. Natural Bridges State Beach, 19. Back home.


















People keep asking me if I'm going to change my name to Chelsea Cherer. Although I could probably get a job in cabaret, the answer is no. I've changed my name so many times, I swore never again. I was born Carole Ann George. I married Ernie Charfauros and became Carole Ann Charfauros. We separated and I started using Carole George Charfauros, then switched it to Carole Charfauros George. Then I dropped the Charfauros completely and went back to George, but changed my first name to Chelsea. I used Chelsea George for a while, then finally decided on Carole Chelsea George. That's the name on my passport, driver's license, bank accounts, property titles, etc.

Actually, in Haiti they call me Madame Andre.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

TODAY'S THE DAY!!







Andre and I will be getting married at 4:00 at city hall in Santa Cruz. We're expecting 8 guests, 9 if Daniel can get off work in time to join us. A really nice clerk at city hall told me yesterday that we can ask to do the ceremony on the back lawn overlooking the San Lorenzo River. I was worried about that ugly concrete building with harsh fluorescent lights. Our photographer Gabriel should get some nice shots outside in nature.

While Andre's in his ESL class, I have to run around for a few last minute things, like gardenias for us to wear and tax papers for our meeting with the Immigration Project tomorrow. I'm revising the template for our wedding ceremony, but mostly Andre wants to stick to tradition and nixed my idea of saying anything in Creole, his native tongue.

I'm very excited about the dress I found on craigslist. It's a slinky burgundy floor-length dress, exactly the same color as the flower girl dress that Maya wore for her Auntie Marian's wedding. Maya would have loved to see her Mommy and Andre get married. At least everyone who is joining us today were all close friends and family to Maya, bringing her spirit closer to us on this special day.

I received a sweet email this morning from my German "Schwester" (sister) Christine. I lived with her and her parents, Papa and Mutti Droop, in the summer of 1974 as an exchange student. I've been back to visit them in Stemshorn, Germany many times since then. Of course they fell in love with Maya, and now they're anxious to meet Andre. Papa is 82 and Mutti just celebrated her 80th. I hope he can get a German visa while they're still around.

Well, I think it's time to get ready for the big day....

Saturday, August 9, 2008

STILL COUNTING: 3 DAYS TO GO

I posted a new short video to YouTube called "Andre in San Francisco." You can watch it by opening up YouTube and typing in "chelseamaya." That should bring up the four videos I've posted so far.

In the past nine days I've been to Urgent Care twice, the dermatologist once, and now the emergency room two times, all because of a mysterious infection and a pyogenic grandeloma on my left thumb. I couldn't sleep the whole time because of the shooting pain. After the surgery, my thumb looks like a rabid dog tried to chew it off, but hopefully healing has begun. Either way, on Tuesday I'll be wearing a ring and a bandage on my left hand. You know me -- nothing conventional.

The worst part is, I've been forbidden to swim, play racquetball, do martial arts, and probably not even Zumba dance class. I'm trying to walk a lot and I still ride my bike gingerly. I never realized how useful thumbs are. I remember reading that use of our thumb is what separates us from other animals. I feel like a lowly slug these days.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

COUNT DOWN: 1 Week Till the Wedding





PHOTO CAPTIONS: 1. Andre in uniform before his soccer match, 2. posing with a redwood tree in Big Basin State Park, 3. chatting on his cell in Capitola-By-The-Sea.

Well, let's see. We did our prenuptial agreement in English and Spanish with two lawyers and notarized signatures...we got the wedding bands (mine's temporary until I find and repair my grandma Leslie's platinum band of tiny diamonds)...we have all the clothing except Andre still needs a belt...my neighbor Donna offered flowers from her garden...we have Gabriel and Debbie as witnesses, Gabriel will also photograph, and Lety and Moy will be our padrinos, whatever that means. Maya's former nanny Aracely said we had to have padrinos or else the marriage would fail. Even Lety wasn't sure, but I think it means they have to pay for the wedding. Maybe I'll surprised them with a bill afterwards! Ha Ha!

Actually, it's going to be a very simple wedding, so don't feel bad that no one's invited. We're just signing papers in the Santa Cruz courthouse. Maybe a nice Mexican seafood dinner on the wharf afterwards. We might plan a party later, and definitely will have a reception in Haiti once Andre is allowed to travel abroad, but for now this is all we have time for.

The next day, on August 13, we have an appointment with The Immigration Project to fill out the application for permanent residency, we have to renew Andre's California ID, and update my health insurance because. For now we have two individual policies, which is twice the price that our joint insurance will be. Blue Cross goes by the age of the youngest spouse, so I lucked out there. Had I married someone my own age, our health insurance would have cost over $800 a month. Yikes!

In our last days of unmarried life, Andre continues with his morning ESL classes while I alternate swimming laps MWF with Zumba dance classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Andre plays for the San Pablo soccer team and we both take martial arts class together. We also play racquetball a few days a week and bike along West Cliff whenever we can. The weather has been absolutely gorgeous most of the time since Andre arrived. He has no idea what winter in Santa Cruz will be like, but at least the transition has been easier for him in summer.

Recently we hiked in Big Basin up in the redwoods and checked out Capitola Beach. We made a second trip to San Francisco. We also have to get packed for our August 14 departure to Pittsburgh PA, Washington DC, New York and New Jersey. After a 3-week honeymoon, we return to Santa Cruz on Sept. 3 and settle down into married life. Someone pinch me!